FOREPLAY: THE SECRET YOU DON'T KNOW

So many people are having intercourse but very few actually have sex. Now, intercourse is a process of sexual stimulation that leads quickly to sexual satisfaction (I would have said orgasm but the experience doesn't meet with the definition of orgasm). Sex is a series of highly stimulating process that leads through a feeling of highness to orgasm (which is defined by a scientist as a state that is very similar to taking heroin).

Now you can establish the category you belong. The first rule of sex according to the ancient arts is “Never Rush”. This brings me to the chemistry of foreplay.

Foreplay is the gentle journey to a state where sexual gratification cannot be refused or rejected. The brain has a pleasure centre that functions to make sexual experience wonderful. So also does the spinal cord. There is a substance in the body called dopamine which is responsible for this excitement and it is accompanied by substances called endogenous opioid peptides which are like morphine and function to cut off pain (that’s why you only feel the injury after sex).

A profound foreplay helps achieve optimal secretions and stimulation of these substances that ends up promoting sexual stimulation and a fantastic orgasm. For men, there is evidence that this kind of foreplay can reduce and in some cases complete eliminate the refractory phase after ejaculation hence a man can maintain a strong erection straight for two or more ejaculation/orgasm.

The orgasm experienced is usually very deep and ecstatic. I have long theorized that the long active presence of these substances in their stimulating areas can transform a sexual experience completely.

The most important ingredient that initiates these substances is anticipation. Foreplay starts with anticipation, so send a naughty sms to your partner at work, talk dirty on phone, or send a picture or a voice note.

Talk together; dinner for two, see a romantic movie or a comedy together, play a naughty game, sensual oily massage, shower together without sex, mop up each other after bathing, bubble bath together, blindfold your partner while you slowly undress and kiss him or her etc.

Another important rule is to refrain from highly sensitive areas like: the penis, vagina and also not rushing to the breasts. Take the trip gently, so that the process of sexual staircase is followed. Jumping from 1 to 30 makes you skip the 28 sensual phases or steps that will transform your body into ecstasy. Leaving these highly sensitive areas for last increases the pressure in the pelvis by almost tenfold, so that on stimulation there is a massive implosion of pleasure that triggers extensive activity in the brain’s pleasure centre.

When you have both arrived at a mutual conclusion that sexual gratification cannot be held back any longer, select a position that suites you both.

Note that drug abuse reduces the body’s response to sexual stimulation.